Dear
Aesthetic,
First of all, since you apparently think you are "all that," we
can't help but wonder why you don't send a picture of yourself.
If you really are "aesthetically pleasing" maybe we'll post your
picture on the page! To address your question with somewhat less
attitude however, the pictures that are posted on the page are
there to display a variety of looks. Most places use models to
advertise, but at Kurfew we like to use down to earth guys, some
with conventional and some with offbeat good looks. These are
the kinds of guys that people end up dating, and even though you
might not find all the guys on the web page attractive, someone
does! We get dozens of requests every week for contact information
for people on the site (we don't give this personal information
out, however). Using guys with real, cutting-edge looks as well
as conventionally and classically good looking guys adds an element
of realism to our page which is absent in most advertisements.
Also, let the pictures be a reminder that someone who appears
simply OK in a picture, may actually be quite magnetic and attractive
in person.
—
Ambiguous
Anthony
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Dear
Aesthetic,
Not only do I agree with Anthony that we should post your picture,
but we should give everyone the opportunity to comment on your
looks. Unless you're a universally attractive supermodel, you
might be surprised at how varied a reaction you might get. It's
one of the sadder facts within the young gay community that
far too many have been brainwashed with the media-created definition
of "good looking," and I'll be the first to admit
suffering from this to one degree or another. Some gay people
demand that even their friends and acquaintances meet a certain
standard of "beauty" and this often results in missing
out on incredible opportunities to understand and appreciate
the many other elements that can make a person extremely attractive.
For me, I often find a particularly vibrant personality, ambitiousness,
extreme talent, creativity, and sheer intelligence to be remarkably
attractive characteristics. This, in conjunction with a basic
level of physical chemistry, is the basis of a relationship.
When none of these qualities are present in a "gorgeous
guy," there's no basis for anything beyond sexual appreciation,
and a relationship with such a person will fizzle as quickly
as it takes the next pretty face to come along.
With that
said, I've taken many of the pictures that are posted on the
website. I try not to rely on solely my own tastes but solicit
suggestions from any number of Kurfew helpers, or from Kurfew
patrons themselves. I don't like when someone comes up and "demands"
to be photographed, as the decision must ultimately be that
of the photographer. But the goal, as Anthony stated, is to
present a diverse array of faces, body types, expressions and
poses to reflect the multitude of tastes and preferences that
are out there.
—
Jeff
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