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I'm
Ambiguous Too!
Dear
Anthony,
How old do you have to be to get in? Also, I'm questioning my
sexual orientation. —
thirdeye81@aol.com
Dear
Third Eye,
It's always 18 to party and 21 to drink. Bring your ID and have
a good time! As far as your sexual orientation, I'm glad to
hear that you are questioning your sexuality because it just proves
that society hasn't successfuly brainwashed everyone into believeing
that they are straight. The question of sexuality is not an
easy one, (hey, even I had once called myself, "Ambiguous Anthony,")
but it is one to be taken seriously -- one of the biggest problems
in today's label-conscious society is that everyone believes that
he must have one. But this is not the case -- if you are not
ready to label yourself as one thing or another, don't! Do what
you want and explore your options. If you feel that you might
be attracted to members of the same sex than this is something that
you should look further into. I'm not suggesting that you go
and sleep with the first person you can find. Perhaps the best
thing you can do is to wait until it becomes a relevant issue in your
life. If you're feeling lonely, than it already has become relevant,
and you might want to consider taking the next step. Go out
and try to meet someone, take it slowly, find someone that you trust
and care about, and the answers will soon make themselves clear.
Kurfew can certainly be a good place to start, if only because you
can check things (and people) out and decide to interact with someone
only if you so choose. There is no rush in deciding on a sexual orientation
and there is nothing wrong with remaining "ambiguous," but if you're
ready to start checking it out, then go for it, just remember to be
safe!
— Ambiguous
Anthony