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Straight
Boys Kissing
Hi
Anthony,
I have also had a problem with straight people not being able to get
in to
Kurfew. I know you already answered that but I have a problem
with making
people kiss to prove thier sexuality. Even if I was gay I would
not
want to kiss my friends. In todays society it is very dangerous
to be
so free with your sexuality (you can get herpes or mono). What
if you
are in a serious relationship, and decide to have a girls night out,
does
that mean you have to cheat to get into a club? This subject
really
bothers me! Are you saying that gay people are loose?
I don't mean
to be hostile but I am wondering if you guys considered these
factors
before asking people to do this? —
alcha321@yahoo.com
Dear
Alcha,
Well,
I've already tackled the basic question of straight people coming
to Kurfew (check out my answer below, since this column is listed
by most recent questions first). As far as "making people kiss to
prove their sexuality," I've asked the door staff about this, and
they've told me that the people they ask to kiss are those who come
to the door saying that they're boyfriends (or girlfriends), but are
questionable for some reason. Furthermore, they're looking for a reaction.
No one is forced to kiss anyone. Often, when the door staff asks these
"questionable couples" to kiss, we get the predictable homophobic
reaction and they're banished from the line for good reason.
There's really nothing wrong with asking boyfriends or girlfriends
to kiss...we assume that they do that anyway. We've heard individual
stories of straight guys who bit the bullet and kissed their buddy
to carry out the appearance of being gay, but we only asked them to
kiss whom they described as their boyfriend! And quite frankly,
if a straight boy is willing to kiss his straight friend on the lips
to get into the Kurfew party, I think we should let him in, but nobody
is forcing him to do it. If the door staff were asking you to
kiss strangers, I wouldn't like that, and I'd tell them to stop doing
that. The real problem here again is people misrepresenting themselves
to get into the party. Once again, the best solution is to arrive
with gay friends, and politely tell the door person that you're here
for the Kurfew party with your gay friends. Failing that, at
least be honest and open-minded and let the door person decide on
a case by case basis.
— Ambiguous
Anthony