Dear
Help,
First off, don't sound so upset! Your "problem" is the fantasy
of many guys (especially me!). I actually think it is the plot
line to several pornos I have "heard about," but I digress.
If you want to know if he is gay you have a couple of options.
First, get him drunk and see what happens...I don't suggest this
because it is a little sleazy, but it's probably how the porno
would go. You could try dropping some "gay" comments and see how
he responds...talk about how great Matt Damon was in "The Talented
Mr. Rippley." In my opinion, if he knows that you are gay and
you sense that there might be some flirtation, you are probably
right. However, you are both at an age of self discovery, people
move at different rates in these things, you don't want to come
on to strong, so just spend time with him whenever you can, make
it clear with your actions and not your words that you are interested.
If he is as well, eventually he will come around. Good luck and
let me know how this goes...this is one cliffhanger I don't want
to miss the end of!
—
Anthony |
Dear
Help,
The fact that he's making sexual jokes and
that he has never made any anti-gay comments at the very least
suggests that your wrestling partner has an open mind. You're
obviously looking to make something happen here, so you're going
to have to take the initiative and make a move that's at least
minimally suggestive of your interest. For example, after a
particular wrestling hold, you might make an effort to hold
onto him a bit longer than you might normally do so. You may
have to do this a few times to get to just the point that the
contact is "suspicious" yet not so strong as to cause
this potentially straight boy to jump up screaming "Oh
my god, it's a fag!!!" If you find that he's reacting uncomfortably,
you should probably back off and reassess what you're dealing
with. On the other hand (and I hope this is the case, for your
sake) if he begins to respond in kind, perhaps by more touchy-feely
than usual or duplicating your lingering touches, that's a pretty
strong indicator of mutual interest. Of course, you might still
have to deal with someone unsure of his sexuality, or unprepared
for a relationship, but that's all part of the excitement of
figuring this boy out.
—
Jeff
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