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Ahead...
Dear
Anthony,
Hello
my name is Amy and i would like to tell you about a prolem (Anthony's
note: I usually leave the writers' misspellings to keep it real; we
Kurfew people didn't make them) I had
this week at the Tunnel. I attend the Kurfew party at the Tunnel every
Saturday night. This past Sat i went to the Tunnel with my friend
Melissa and 2 guys. The bouncer told me to wait on line because of
the fact that I was bringing in straight guys. A lot of times when
I'm on line I hear the people at the door ask people if they are gay
and if they say no they say go through the front entrance. I don't
understand this. What's wrong with gay friendly people attending the
Kurfew party? I am not gay or bi and i still attend this party every
week and i actually have more fun in the Kurfew part of the club than
the other side. I understand you telling people that it is a gay party
b/c unfortunaltly there are a lot of people who dislike gays but what
about us straight people who have gay friends and have absolutely
no problem with people being gay? I have never said anything because
personally I have never had a problem but now that I think about it,
it can be considered discrimination towards straight people and although
I love the Kurfew party I think this is wrong.
Please
write back with your comments
— Amy
(XXTC123X@aol.com)
Dear
Amy,
There's nothing wrong with gay-friendly straight people coming to
Kurfew but it is the job of the door staff to let the right ones in.
Sometimes people turned away from the front door for one reason or
another try to act "gay friendly" in order to utilize our mid-block
entrance. Our door staff has good communication with the main
entrance door staff to prevent this from happening. Other times,
people who are not "gay friendly" want to get into the Kurfew party
just because it is exclusive and hip or to snare some of our cool
giveaways. It is a gay party, afterall, and it's
our responsibilty to retain the gay vibe. We know a significant
number of the "Kurfew Krowd" by face, and when they decide they're
going to bring a straight friend...or even a straight brother or sister...they're
not going to have a problem getting in. What we definitely will
not tolerate, however, is any indication of hostility or uncomfortableness
with gay people. That's why the Kurfew door staff might ask
two "straight" boys to kiss...they're reaction will reveal a lot about
whether they belong in the party, regardless of their true sexual
orientation, which can't, of course, always be known (neither by us,
nor the person himself sometimes). We want to make sure that everyone
has a fun, safe time at Kurfew, and our exclusivity helps avoid problems.
If you take a look at some of the bigoted, homophobic people we turn
away on a given night, you'd be immediately thankful, and understand
just why the Kurfew party is such a blast. So either get your
"straight" friends into "gay-friendly" shape, or arrive
with some real queens, and we'll see you on Saturday night (maybe!)
— Ambiguous
Anthony