Come to ME dammit!

Hey Anthony,
I, too, go to NYU- like a lot of us!!! Anyways, I just went to Kurfew for the first time alone. It was cool to be around "our kind." however NO ONE came up to me!  Now, true I did not try to approach anybody myself, I did, however, see several others alone as well and not being talked to. Of course I racked my brain trying to figure why.  I am Asian and sometimes I think it's because of that....Then I thought I may not be that great looking. And obviously, everybody's looking for different things so that's hard to prove.  Perhaps it was the way I acted. I suppose I generally seem very stand-offish.  But I don't know. If so, do I have to smile to everyone and lick their bodies just to feel I belong?  My wondering didn't even include the several others who weren't talked to who just happened to be white, black, hispanic; good-looking; and apparently nice.  So explain to me this lack of desire to include new people. I'm interested to find out if you think it has something to do with our culture or just typical human social behavior.
— Viktum (ura200@is7.nyu.edu)

Dear Viktum,
There does exist a well respected theory in the field of psychology called Reciprocal Influence. This theory, which was proposed and mostly studied by a psychologist by the name of H. L. Raush, states that if you change your behavior towards another person, he or she will generally show reciprocal changes in behavior toward you. In other words, your behavior may be partly to blame for your feeling of exclusion. I'm not saying that you have to "smile at everyone and lick their bodies," however, you admitted that you tend to be a bit standoffish, perhaps you can try to approach people and talk to those you want to get to know, or those who seem like they might interest you.  Go interact with the drag queens and ask them to pull some cute boy into the conversation.  Have fun!  You only live once!  I think that you will find that opening up to people will not only cause more people to engage with you but it will also build up your self confidence and put an end to the feelings of exclusion. You should first make this effort before resorting to complaining that guys don't like Asian guys, because there are enough tastes and preferences out there to include everyone...and that just sounds like an excuse.  Good luck, let me know how it goes. 
— Ambiguous Anthony