My Housemate's a Boy Stealer

Dear Anthony,
I'm a college student as well and wanted to ask your thoughts on a kind of scary issue.  Recently, a new tenant moved into my house (there are four of us).  He seemed OK at first but started to ask a lot of very personal questions, mostly about my homosexuality.  I answered them the best I could without telling him too much about me. During the next few days, he continued to ask me personal questions and I responded by telling him that his questions are too personal and that he needs to stop asking them.  He didn't seem to be put off by that, he just shrugged his shoulders and said, "O.K."  Well here's the thing:  recently during the time he was asking too many questions,  he found out that I was interested in two boys that go to the same club meeting we both just happen to go to.  He must have overheard it in a conversation I had with somebody.  At my house, he made a comment about the first boy stating that he was interested in meeting him.  I responded just by nonchalantly saying, "Oh, that's cool."  I didn't want to give him any clue that I had any attraction to the first boy.  Then, two nights later, I was at a b-day party with my freinds and he showed up late with the second boy that I'm interested in.  They only stayed for ten minutes, long enough for me to see them and then they left.  I might add that he didn't even know my friend that had the birthday and really had no cause to go other than he was invited along with my housemates.   Later that night, when I got home I found that the boy spent part of the night with my housemate.  On their way out the door I heard my name mentioned.  I don't know what to make of all of this.  It seems to me that my housemate is trying to mess with my head or that maybe there is some kind of fatal attraction thing going on with him.  In any case, it's got me spooked and it's too coincidental that my exact type and preferences for boys is being duplicated by him and that he is acting out those tendencies by pursuing one and bringing the other home.  What do you make of all this and do you think I should be concerned about my safety?  Please don't publish my e-mail address, only an alias like Spooked or something.
— Thank you (email address withheld on request)

Dear Spooked or Something,
I really don't have enough information about him to know whether or not you should fear for your safety.  It doesn't really sound like it right now, but you can never be too careful. A lot of serious mental disorders can be very well masked, depending on other symptoms it sounds like your new housemate could quite possibly have some sort of personality disorder.  Again, hard to say with the information given, he just seems kind of weird to me right now.  It is possible that as a way to cope with his own homosexuality he has chosen to "adopt" some of your personality to make it easier for himself.  He might also be being mean to you because he subconsciously feels that you abandoned him when he was going through a difficult time of self discovery (refusal to answer his questions). Well, whatever the reasons are for his behavior, it is clear that you don't find it acceptable.  Normally I would suggest confronting him, but that is perhaps not the best route right now.  Try to act like his behavior doesn't bother you.  If it gets to the point where you can't stand it anymore and you need to ask him what he is doing, make sure you feel safe in that decision.  If you feel that your safety will be in jeopardy in any way, do not confront him, seek the help of a counselor at school, or some other proper authority.  Good Luck.  Please write in with more information as it develops. 
— Ambiguous Anthony

Jeff's comment: Hey Anthony, polite answer but let's face it... Spooked has a housemate that's a big 'ol slut.  First Housemate is asking personal questions of Spooked, probably to get into Spooked pants.  Then Spooked unintentionally brings these great looking guys into the fray, and Housemate naturally tries to jump on those opportunities.   It is not AT ALL a coincidence to have the same preferences in boys...just look at the number of drooling tongues when a given hottie walks into Kurfew.  And by talking about his specific boys, Spooked is unintentionally planting the seeds of interest into Housemate's mind.  Spooked just needs to learn to keep his love-interests private or risk forever having Housemate stealing his men!