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B/F feels caged, what can I do?

Submitted By: Jeff
Date: January 8

In Answer To: B/F feels caged, what can I do? (Tony)

In your case, the shoe is on the other foot. Your boyfriend is asking for a bit more freedom, and you seem reluctant to give it to him because you don't feel you are spending enough time together. Let's be optimists and assume that there is a happy medium: the question is how to get there.

The two of you already have an open relationship, and it seems an ideal solution would be for you to develop more of a social life outside of your boyfriend. This would allow you to spend more time pursuing things that interest you, while allowing your boyfriend more of the time with his family and friends that he feels he needs. You may feel it's unfair that one friend gets "this" amount of time and you only get "that," but you really can't argue with feelings. In the end, human psychology dictates that he's apt to want to be with you more when you yourself become "less available." More importantly, you'll have other activities or friends to keep you from feeling lonely during the time that your boyfriend isn't around. So give it a shot, and see how it goes!

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