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Caged

Submitted By: Angel
Date: November 21

Hey,

I'm a suburban boi from longisland whose had the same boyfriend for over a year now. Our relationship has become extremely rocky and I'm not sure what to do anymore. He's extremely insecure. For as long as I can remember I've wanted to go to a gay club, just like kurfew but I know that if I go he will dump me. He says that the only reason people go to gay clubs is for hookups; which I find rediculous. I want to hangout with people I can relate to, he doesn't understand how I could relate to them any better, and therefore I have NO gay friends. I think he hasn't come to terms with himself, and it appears he shuns the gay community because he wants to look better in front of all his straight friends. Frankly, I feel caged because I'm the one home every saturday night when I could be having the time of my life. What do I do? I won't be eighteen forever. He's beautiful, he's sweet, but he's a bitch and I just can't take it anymore! I'm depressed and I don't think I should feel this way. I used to say that all the negativity in our relationship was overshadowed by whatever good was there - I think I've lost that faith I once had. He loves me, and I love him - but is love enough sometimes? Well, I could talk about this for hours but hopefully you can help based on this. Thanks a lot.

Sincerely,
18, from LI

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