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Married and just found out I'm bi.

Submitted By: Rebecca
Date: November 29

In Answer To: Work on the relationship first... (Jeff)

Hi! Okay, so I'm a 23 year old female who married my highschool sweetheart this past summer. I love my hubbie a ton, and am lucky that he is so open to discussing an "issue" that I've been having. . .last year, I met this wonderful, beautiful, totally open lesbian. We talked and talked and talked, and I simply admired her openness and freedom in her sexuality. Welp, turns out I'm thinking I'm bi. I found myself so darn attracted to her. I also just met another girl who is so darn cute and fun. So, my question is this: where do I move from here? My husband knows all of my feelings and is a total sweetheart about my everything. I would never, ever want to cheat on him, but I must admit that I am so curious about kissing and/or gettin' it on with a girl. It makes it even tougher that both girls I am crushing on/crushed on admitted to having big crushes on me, too! Yikes! I'm glad to be so open with my husband, and definitely still find him and other men sexually attractive, but have a yearning to explore my 'gay' side. I'm also wondering if our frequenting of gay bars (with our many gay friends) and ecstacy use (just three times) has tapped my bisexuality. Obviously, this exploration with women wouldn't rationally be good for our marriage, but what about me fantasizing about these girls- that can't be the best either?! Your advice is much appreciated- I'm so glad I found this website and hope to visit Kurfew when I'm in New York! Thanks!!

Questions In This Thread

• Husband says he's bi...should i stay or should i go?
  Lillmiss -- September 12
  • You need to do some serious evaluating...
    Jeff -- October 8
    • How can I trust him?
      lilmiss -- October 10
      • Work on the relationship first...
        Jeff -- October 10

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