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Husband says he's bi...should i stay or should i go?

Submitted By: Lillmiss
Date: September 12

Hi
I have been married 3 years to my husband who i love very much, recently he has told me he is bisexual, well he says he thinks he could go with a man if he wasnt with me. The thing is that concerns me is that i had to force it out of him, i had my suspisions (excuse the spelling) he wouldn't have told me otherwise. He told me when he was 17 years old he messed around with his friend about 8 or 9 times, then he told me he wouldn't dream of doing it again and has never had fantasies, so i was understanding about this and just as i start getting over it, he then tells me he had a fantasy once while we have been together, which i was very hurt that he lied to me again. I know he loves me very much as i love him the same. I am frightened to stay with him incase he lies again, i just cannot trust a word he says anymore as he must have lied to me at least 50 times over 3 months. I have had to go on tablets because of the stress and not being able to eat and sleep very well. He says he will do anything to stay with me. What should i do? I am so confused and hurting inside. Also there is this one man that has fallen inlove with me, he is a very nice man, he is staright too. He has done lots for me, he has bought me a mobile phone because he was worried about me driving a car that keeps breaking down and he is very annoyed at my husband for putting me through this and not getting on with his priorities, like fixing the car and letting me drive it with 2 children in it and some big jobs around the house he hasnt gotten on with. My husband has not taken me out in a long time, he did take me for a short break since this and has been trying, but my friend seems to think he just buys me gifts and everything will be ok. My husband has had a very different upbringing to myself, he has rich parents and has been to private schools, i know my husbands parents arnt very happy together, unlike mine and i have been brought up in mixed schools and had to work hard for the things i have got. My husband seems to think things will fix themselves and he doesn't realise how he should be getting on with things. I'm worried that my children will see how unhappy i am and i don't want this to affect them. What advise can you give me? Thankyou so much i just don't know which way to turn anymore. Sorry for rambling on.

Questions In This Thread

• Husband says he's bi...should i stay or should i go?
  Lillmiss -- September 12
  • You need to do some serious evaluating...
    Jeff -- October 8
    • How can I trust him?
      lilmiss -- October 10
      • Work on the relationship first...
        Jeff -- October 10

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