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First make sure you know what you want!

Submitted By: Jeff
Date: August 29

In Answer To: Security or Honesty? (Angel)

You don't mention how old you are, but I get the sense this is one of your first relationships. You mention flat out that you know you don't love him, but you also say "He's sweet and I don't want to be alone." Have you thought about living away from him? Could you do it? Would you miss him? The point I'm trying to make is that people in early relationships often make the mistake of assuming that they should be going after something better, when they already have something meaningful and good for them.

If you're absolutely certain this guy isn't the one for you, you do need to figure out how to move on. I agree with Anthony that it's wrong to string someone along, although it's something that happens all of the time. Your ultimate goal should be to successfully shift your relationship to a friendship, freeing you up to pursue a new relationship without "burning your bridges" as they say!

- Jeff

Questions In This Thread

• Security or Honesty?
  Angel -- August 20
  • Honesty
    Anthony -- August 20
  • First make sure you know what you want!
    Jeff -- August 29

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