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In a pickle

Submitted By: A
Date: August 12

Hey Anthony--

Okay. I'm in a real pickle. I go to school with this guy that seems to have an incredible amount in common with me, plus we're both gay. He actually made me feel comfortable enough to express myself more publicly. Well, the first night I met him, he was kind of drunk, but kept giving me these signals that he wanted to fool around with me. Like I was staring at him while he was in a conversation with four other people. Then he looked at me and started mouthing something. I didn't understand what he was saying, but I could certainly tell he was propositioning. I kind of nodded my head, and he motioned for me to follow him to the bathroom. I think he wanted to go down on me. He was gorgeous. Anyway, the door was locked so we couldn't do anything. Anyway, he asked if I wanted to come up to his room later, and so I followed him up there. Unfortunately his roommate was there (who was also gay). During the night I told him I needed to get something from my room, and he told me to bring back a condom. I was shocked, but I did it, but nothing ever happened.

Anyway, after that night, we became good friends, and then one night he came in and was drunk again. He asked me to massage his feet and while I was doing it, he got a hard-on. Then he put his feet under my ass, and we preceeded to cuddle together, and I ended up fondling him. We slept together, but didn't have sex. The next morning, he told me that he didn't want a relationship and that he didn't know if he could really like me like that. That shocked me, because you don't do all those things with people you aren't interested in. Anyway, throughout the course of the semester I was basically his puppy dog and he continued to lead me on at times, and at others he would treat me coldly. Finally rumors started to circulate that we were dating. He got angry and thought that I had started them. When I approached him about it, he brought up things that I had done with other guys during the semester, and it 1) had nothing to do with the rumors about me and him and 2) shouldn't have even bothered him if we didn't have a relationship.

Anthony, the thing is I love this guy more than anything, and I'll be seeing him again for another year after this summer. What should I do? Talk to his close friends? I tried talking to him and it's difficult for him to talk
about it. He has to be drunk to approach the subject. I try to leave him alone sometimes, and all I think about is him. Even his close friends who know the situation always come up to me and ask me where he is, as if we were really dating. Then there are times when we just sit and stare at each other, like for 20 to 30 seconds at a time.

HELP!!!!

Questions In This Thread

• In a pickle
  A -- August 12
  • Have some self respect
    Anthony -- August 12
  • You're going to have to get over him...
    Jeff -- August 19

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