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Follow my helpful rule of thumb...

Submitted By: Jeff
Date: March 5

In Answer To: He's got a man... (AnonaMISS)

When it comes to sizing up prospective new dates, my cardinal rule of thumb is:

"Never break up someone else relationship."

As much as you like this guy, and as bad or inappropriate his current boyfriend is, the only dignified course of action is to avoid pursuing this boy while he's still involved in this other relationship.

I know it's hard to "let go" of someone you might really like, but in the end you'll feel better about yourself, you will avoid creating needless enemies, and you'll actually be more of an attractive person for sticking to your principles. I also believe in Karmic forces: you obviously wouldn't want someone to be grubbing after your boyfriend, so why do that to someone else???

If an when the two of them break up, and from the description of their relationship it hardly sounds like something that will last for years and years, it would be appropriate to make your move. At that time you can let him know that you've liked him for a while but didn't want to disrupt his relationship, which should win you some respect if not outright bonus points.

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