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Lonely

Submitted By: newgrounds
Date: December 5

Hi guys, just found your site. Pretty cool stuff. Im a senior in college getting ready for grad school. Im not out but Im fine with who I am as a gay male though Im still figuring some things out.

The question I have is simple. I have met quite a few guys and been open and available on the dating scene. Of course there were those that I wasnt compatible with because of different interests or hobbies/ goals/ you know all the normal stuff anyone has to figure out in a relationship. But I have found a few guys I really cared for but nothing has ever worked out and I cant figure out why.

I know that I wear my heart on my shoulder but Im proud of that and I consider my frankness a part of who I am, but I dont think Ive been too open too early. Also I know I have some baggage, as we all do, from being rejected by friends in highschool and college when I came out to them as well as being sexually abused as a kid. But theres not much I can do about that and again I dont think its been much of an issue. Also my standards are high but only in the sense of common interests. To me there is nothing sexier than intelligence and artistry. All my friends, girls and guys, straight and gay, say that Im goodlookin and that Im quite a catch. So I guess I dont know what Im doing wrong.

I have a feeling that a lot of it has to do with where I live and my age, 23. It seems like the guys I meet that are hot, interesting, and intelligent either arnt ready for a real relationship or they break it off with me without even telling me why. (thats happened 3 times now in the past year or so including today) I just feel so lonely. All I want is someone to get to know deeply and care for, to have fun with, to share all of myself with. but i know im a very unique person and that being gay dwindles the amount of the fish in the sea, as they say, even more. it seems impossible that ill find someone and while i know thats foolish to say comments of ur time will come, and youll find them eventually just arnt helping anymore. its to the point that i want to be able to give up on love. to just not care anymore. but i cant.....

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