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Submitted By: Jeff
Date: January 10

In Answer To: My first breakup (Tyler)

Tyler...

I'm sorry to hear that your relationship ended, but the title of your question shows that you're beginning to look at things with a mature and rational perspective..."My First Breakup." Almost every one of us has had a "first breakup" and many of us will always remember "our first relationship" with the special type of fondness that you describe.

Whatever the explanation your friend is giving you for ending the relationship, it seems that he wants to move on. Stop obsessing over whether or not you "gave him enough attention." That may be just an excuse he's using so he doesn't seem like he's just "dumping you for another." The real issue here is that he seems to want to date and experience other guys. And you must be prepared to do the same. A relationship is only beneficial when both people want it.

Whining and depression are going to be natural parts of this...take the time you need to grieve, but then move on...start looking around with an open mind towards others who might be prospective dating material. It's going to be difficult, but use your every strength to do it. And make some new friends so you don't always have to find yourself in the company of this friend for whom you've had (and have) so many feelings for.

Good luck and let me know how it goes!

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