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Whats the label?

Submitted By: Joe
Date: May 1

I, like any, and almost all Americans, am lable crazy. I need everyone to fit inside their nice little box, and with that comes the understanding of what to expect from whom. The problem with this is that I do not want a to put a lable on myself. The reason may be that I do not know how to classify myself. I can tell you why. I have always been attracted to guys. Since I was really young. And since I was young everybody has assumed I was gay, and I have been dealing with that my whole life. All the time I thought I was gay, but since every one assumed that, I knew I would never let them know they were right. So I just never dated anyone, and never told anyone how I felt. Well now I am twenty years old, and I would like to get intimate with someone. The problem is that I have never wanted a boyfriend. Not that I am attaracted to girls, but there are a few girls in my life I would marry at the drop of the hat and never regret a day that I could spend getting to know more about them and making new memories with them. I have never felt that way about a guy before. I mean they are nice to look at and I am more attracted to their bodies then I am to girls, but I cannot see myself spending the rest of my life with a guy. For awhile I thought it might have something to do with the fact that if I did find a guy I would have to come out to my family and friends, all of whom would be at least tolerant, if not supportive of me. But as I have gotten older I have devloped a strong sense of self and I know that I could do that and have no problems in doing it. So what is my problem? I am more attracted to guys than I am girls, but I would rather spend my life with a girl than a guy. Am I just a horny devil? That can't be because if I were I would be jumping girl's all the time. For the most part I only seek out guys to fool around with. Part of my problem I know is that since I have never dated anyone, now that I am 20 it is hard to know how to start. I mean the thought of be obligated to spend time with someone just blows my mind away. Just the thought of it makes me feel trapped. I don't know that this all makes sense, but if you are able to make sense out of this rambling I would apprectate you opinon. I have read a lot of the other things you wrote about and even though I do not agree with all of it, it is for the most part well though out and helpful. Maybe it is time I seek some of that rather than just going over it my own head. Thanks a lot.

Joe

Questions In This Thread

• Whats the label?
  Joe -- May 1
  • Your issue is not over the label...
    Jeff -- May 11

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