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Help! Boyfriend has severely abusive parents!

Submitted By: JD
Date: March 21

My boyfriend is being treated like crap by his parents. They hit him, push him into the wall, grab his head and shake him, and the other day he said that his mother grabbed his head and
pushed as hard as she could on his eyes with her thumbs. I have picked my brain and i really dont know what the best thing to do about it is. I told him that if it is ever too bad that he could come stay with my for a while. The only thing about that is, she isnt going to let him come stay with me willingly and she would probably just have the cops come pick him up and that not only makes things worse on him and us, but it puts pressure on me. I know she has something against him because he is gay, she tells him that. Thats where the other abuse comes in, its not only physical. She will call him names and tell him he is no good; anything to make him feel like garbage. He has put up with it his whole life and he says he is just used to it and he only has to put up with it for a few more years, till he turns 18 and he can leave, but i cant sit back and watch that. I have gotten him to stop the self mutulation finally. He used to cut himself because he couldn't stand all the stress it was causing. Ever since his mother found out about him being gay, it has only gotten worse. I cant let this go on, but i'm not sure i can stop it either. Other people have told me to call the cops... well that sounds great and all, but if i did that things would get worse, and she would know it was me becaue i am the only one that he really talks to. In which case she would just keep him away from me. You might say that is better than him being abused, but infact it would be worse for him. It would be too hard for him to get over me and if you dont buy that, then listen to this. At the end of his freshman year he most of his friends were seniors and they all graduated. He was depressed for at least a month, lost a bunch of weight, didn't want to eat, etc. That was only from some friends, imagine what a boyfriend would do... I have been told to get him away from there ASAP.... well that's nice. HOW?? I cannot kidnap him, this is reality, not a fictional story. Any sugestions?? I am afraid that there is nothing that can be done. I dont know.

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