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It's trial and error...

Submitted By: Jeff
Date: February 24

In Answer To: Is this what a boyfriend is supposed to be?????? (SteVen)

It doesn't sound like this guy is treating you like a boyfriend at all. However, how a "relationship" is defined depends on negotiation between the two involved. If both are happy with weekend thrills but not seeing each other during the week, than there's no reason why that can't work. But if one wants that, and the other wants a much deeper and closer relationship, conflicts develop. The wanting of "space" by your partner is a good sign that something is wrong. Either you're smothering him, or his feelings for you have changed...and perhaps he wants to move on.

My first suggestion would be an open and honest discussion and negotiation to see if you can agree on a relationship that works for both of you. Perhaps it's 3 days per week, or perhaps you can find out exactly what kind of "space" he needs and help him achieve that. If he's not willing to make the effort to preserve the relationship, that's your signal to move on. It's hard to get it right the first time; it usually takes trial and error to find the right combination of person and situation that can work over the long run.

Good luck and let me know how it goes!!!

Questions In This Thread

• Is this what a boyfriend is supposed to be??????
  SteVen -- February 19
  • It's trial and error...
    Jeff -- February 24

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