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To tell or not to tell

Submitted By: Anthony
Date: January 4

In Answer To: Should I tell my daughter that I am gay? (Loucohigh)

Well, since your daughter was born and raised in another country, I have no idea as to what the homosexual climate is where she lives. However, this is no reason to keep it from her. As your daughter, she has the right to know the truth. As her father, you have the obligation to educate her and open her mind to things that she does not understand.

If you are going to tell you daughter though, you have to tell your ex-wife as well. It is unfair of you to expect her to keep it from her mother and these types of issues are where children of divorce often feel the tug-o-war between parents. I think that you should sit down with your daughter when she arrives and explain it to her. I suggest that you have a long discussion with her explaining your lifestyle. The more information you can give her the easier it will be for her to accept you. Things will probably be quite awkward between the two of you for some time, but I think it is best to tell her in the beginning that way both of you are forced to deal with it face to face. Also you may want to take her out with you to a couple of gay friendly places, it will help her to see that you are not alone but rather a part of a very normal group of people.
Good Luck and please keep me posted I am very curious as to how this turns out for you.

Questions In This Thread

• Should I tell my daughter that I am gay?
  Loucohigh -- January 4
  • To tell or not to tell
    Anthony -- January 4
    • Great advice Anthony!
      Jeff -- January 6

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