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Try harder

Submitted By: Anthony
Date: December 24

In Answer To: want to be a good BF... (jacob)

I am sure I don't need to tell you this, but cheating is oh so wrong. If you are cheating, I have to wonder what it is you aren't getting from your boyfriend with whom you claim things are going well. Does he not give you enough sex, or do you just like the idea of being with many other people? If it is the first, then talk to him about your needs or try to masturbate more than you do now. If it is the second, then it probably has more to do with compulsion. It's kind of like beating any form of pleasure that comes with pain (drinking, drugs, smoking...etc) One strategy is to absolve yourself of all guilt and promise yourself that you will cheat on him no more, and if you do, you will tell him. If you can go for a month without cheating, then tell him about your past mistakes, explain that you cared about him and changed your ways (you might want to sight your writing to us as an active attempt at getting help), and hope he forgives you and proceed to have a normal relationship. If you are unable to do it though, you must tell him and let him decide if this is the kind of relationship he wants to be in. "Not telling him" is NOT and option. I don't like to say right or wrong a lot, but that is the WRONG thing to do. Good Luck and keep me posted,
Anthony

Questions In This Thread

• want to be a good BF...
  jacob -- December 24
  • Try harder
    Anthony -- December 24
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    Jeff -- January 8

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