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My straight roomate loves me more

Submitted By: Jeff
Date: November 27

In Answer To: My straight roomate loves me more (loving him too)

First of all, let's get one thing "straight." Your roommate was gay or bisexual all along, and your close presence has given him the comfort factor he needed to begin to accept his feelings.

Once you understand that, you should recognize that your friend is obviously going to be hurt enough by the pending breakup. If he mentions that he's now interested in guys, she may even blame you, perhaps subconciously, for "converting" him, even though that's an impossibility.

The moral thing for you to do, is to turn down the offer from your "straight" roommate (as hard as that is to do), and let him know that you just cannot betray your friend in this way. If you're able to stick to this approach, I commend you. Putting yourself in your friends shoes is the best way to understand how she would expect you to behave in these circumstances.

If you decide to ignore my advice, and get involved with your roommate, I don't think there's any tactful way to explain the situation to your friend. You will most certainly lose her friendship, and the newfound relationship with Mr. "Straight" boy might last 1 year, or 1 day...that's anybody's guess.

Unfortunately,

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