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um...yeah

Submitted By: Anthony
Date: January 23

In Answer To: i'm in love with my best friend (daszednconfused)

Well, without trying to be at all diplomatic and ignoring the fact that I don't know you at all, I am going to give you my run down on the situation. You are gay...you like men...a lot...You have this close girlfriend, possibly the first real close friend you have ever known...suddenly she begins to show interest in other guys, she starts fooling around with them. Something is triggered in your head and you become jealous. THis is your best friend and you wanted to keep her in a tiny pickle jar in your basement for the rest of your life...living in a time where sex didn't need to complicate things and just being "girlfriends" was enough...so you think, "well what can I do to make her more exclusively mine? well I guess I could F*ck her every once in a while, I mean I don't really want to, but I care about her so much and don't want to lose her, plus I may never meet a guy that I am this compatible with so I guess I should tell her how I feel...I mean that won't make things awkward at all right???

WRONG One of the reasons, in all likeliness, that you and this girl are able to share this sort of closeness is becuase you are gay. You are not sexually a threat to her and she can share things with you that she may not want to share with a lover. I know it is all very confusing now, but I don't really think that telling her that you want to move your relationship to a knew level will do anything but make things awkward...even if it worked for a little while eventually it would just be uncomfortable and weird...give it some time, really think about it..who knows I could be wrong, but I really just think that this is a jealous reaction.

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  daszednconfused -- January 13
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    Anthony -- January 23

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