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Submitted By: Anthony
Date: October 21

In Answer To: how young is too young to love (CONFUSED 25 YR OLD)

I don't know where to start. It is difficult to cut through the slightly nauseating manner in which you venerate your boyfriend to get to the real problem. It is also difficult to help you since you were so vague about the popularity of your boyfriend, but I will give it a try. It is your choice to "wait" for him, but you have to remember that this does not obligate him to stay with you forever. Remember that when he graduates, it is not only you that he will be more open with, it is the world in general. He will no doubt be discovering new things about himself, and if the girls are as crazy about him as you say, when he comes out, the guys will be relentless to win his affections. As an aside, the manner in which your letter was written makes me wonder if you really "love" him, or is you just love the idea of him, (representing everything you never had and all), Not to mention that your behavior "stalking" him, is atypical of what I think of as "love". That is definately something you should give up if you don't want to lose him. Your only choice is to trust him and let your relationship take its course keeping in mind that somethings aren't forever, or leave him. No amount of obsessing is going to change him. Although he is not too young to "love", his youth is a sign of his relative inexperience with life and keep in mind that after high school he might see things quite differently. Didn't you, I know I did. All kidding aside, I wish you luck with this situation.

Questions In This Thread

• how young is too young to love
  CONFUSED 25 YR OLD -- October 12
  • Where to begin...
    Anthony -- October 21

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