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how young is too young to love

Submitted By: CONFUSED 25 YR OLD
Date: October 12

my question is: can a 16 yr old be in love with a 25 yr old. i'm that 25 yr old and i love him so much. i've known him for about 6 yrs but of course nothing sexual had taken place. his mother knows about our now relationship and ask me that i just give him time to make a choice that will affect him for the rest of his life. i know he loves me. we have been in a couple relationship for 2 yrs now, nothing sexual, up til now. he's very mature, he's taller than me, bigger than me and acts more of an adult than i do at times. i recently just found out that he had a girlfriend while we were together. he is a jock, he plays football, run track, plays basketball, he's VERY popular in his school and neighborhood. He told me he did it from peer pressure and his friends were starting to ask him about his sexuality but calling him a fag. he's very popular. everytime i go to his games, all you can here is girls screaming his name out or having his jersey number scrawled on their faces. he always tells me not to worry about what people say but it's what he feels and what he wants and it's me that he wants he says. he told me that it's hard in school and especially if you're as popular as he is. he's worried about losing the fame and popularity and he said that if i loved him that i should understand. he said that his friends won't understand why he's different and will treat him like shit if found out. i can't bare the thought of losing him. he ask me to bare with it until he finishes school and then he doesn't have to worry about what people say and how he and i have to be careful on how we interact in public. me and his mother are close and she always told me that all she want id for her son to be happy and if it's with me than so be it, but to be careful what we do around people i've told her she's one of the few parents that think about the wants and importance of their child making their own decision and not think about what the neighbors or friends think. everyday i question him about what he did in school, i'd spy on him at school to see if he's flirting, i'd come to a football game that he went to with his friends to spy on him, and he gets enraged telling me he's tired of me not trusting him and questioning him about the whens, who's what's and the hows. i question him everyday about girls and i know he loves me but how can i get him to see that i don't want to be hurt. i know he has a 80% chance of making it to the pros, scouting agencies are always calling his mom offering gifts for him to play for their college and that's another think i'm scared of is the fact that he has a big head and once he makes it to the pros he'll forget all about me . i'm sort of jealous of him be/c i had the same chance and i blew it by not participating in sprts be/c i was afraid of people finding me out. all the attention that he gets i want. all the attention he gets i want to be the one that gives it to him. now these girls are telling me that he went with a white girl and i don't know what to believe. he says it's not true they say it is. i can ask the white girl if it's true be/c she attends the same school and i see her all the time. i'll still be with him if it was true but i just want honesty. ever since he became a football star he talks down to me when it's me that bought him everything, form $250.00 pair of vasache boots, to 95' ES 300 lexus. sometimes i regret doing it but i love him and i want to be with him what should i do. please help me.

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• how young is too young to love
  CONFUSED 25 YR OLD -- October 12
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