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How do you find guys when you're "straight" ?

Submitted By: Manless
Date: September 30

Well first I would like to say hello to all you wonderful people at Kurfew. I think your doing a wonderful thing for young people allover the world. Yes I said young people gay, straight or what have you.

Well now for my question. I am a 19-year-old male college student I have always been straight, or add least I that thought I was. My first year in college gave way to allot of new thing sex, drugs, drinking and 20 page papers due the next day. Over the course of the year I dealt with those thing in my own way but one. (SEX) don't get me wrong getting laid at my school is no problem however I am not the kind of guy that just doesn't sleeps with any girl. I am what people like to call a (smart jock) 5'7 172lb hard 4.2GPA and all around nice guy so why is it I can't find the right girl. For years girls have done me wrong for no reason really for no reason so after my first year of college I gave up on finding a nice girl and just focused on school. If I got one, I got one if I didn't I didn't.

Well now I have an even bigger problem (finding a nice guy). Earlier this year I had my first male on male encounter. One day my roommate had one of his friends over they went out partying the night before I was out of town. The guy staid the night he crashed on the couch. I got in the next night around 10pm saw the blanket on the couch. My roommate was in the shower his room door was open and the shower was on, no one was in the room no one ells was in the house or so I thought. My room door was closed just as I left it. I open the door and BAM there's this naked guy changing in my room. I immediately saw him and he saw me but there was a silent pause for a minute a very long minute while we both looked at each other. He then pulled up his boxer shorts and said: "sorry I thought this was D's room I was just getting ready", I said: "no its over there but I'll wait for you to finish". Well he's still talking to me while putting on his pants and shirt saying "you must be D's roommate I'm @@# are you coming out with us to night". Then he said well let me get out of your room. I closed the door and said to my self, damn that guy was fine as (heck) in lighter words. He had a great body with a butt to die for, a butt that would be on my mine for the rest of the night. So we all went out I got to know him and he was a cool guy however he never told my roommate what happen. (Hmmm) We went out with my new girl friend that and some other girls.
That night my new girl was really antsy to have sex we had never done any thing before we'd be going together for about 2months yes 2. That night I said ok what the hell. I made (lust) to my girl. Start out in my favorite position that good old Doggy Style. All I could think of was him how much I wished it was him. I went longer than I ever had in my life that night my girl was very happy she said it was the best she ever had. She went on to want it all the time. If she only knew every time I had sex with her I thought of another guy. I no longer date that girl sex was becoming the bases of our relationship, now I look at guys allot different.

My problem is man I want to meet a guy but I just can't. I can't go to any gay clubs because I really don't want people to know all my business. I don't know the first thing about flirting with a guy. How do you flirt and the things you say are the same things you would say if you were two straight guys. Like lets got to the club or hey you want to go to this party or come over and for dinner and drinking blah blah blah yaketty smackity I say these things to guys I am not trying to flit with. How do I do it? That's why I spend so much time online trying to meet Mr. Right but they all lie and act worse then girl do as far as playing games with my hart. All the guys I meet online end up being far away and real D@#$ heads.
I know there are gay guys in my town but how do I get them to come up to me with out me having to act fem. I don't want a guy who acts like a girl no offence to any one that does that's just not me. I mean even if guys think I am attractive they would not come up to me do to the fact that no one no one in hell would ever think of me as gay or BI. Then with all these girls going around trying to get in bed with me and talking, no guy would ever come up to me. However all of that is Bull SH*#. I'm a good-looking guy so I'm told why can't I get a guy. I have no trouble getting girls hell that's what I am trying to get away from. Do I have to act fem or ware a sign for guys to hint at me that they are interested. How do I get those guys that I think are cute but I don't know if the are gay or BI. I don't want to have to beat them up if I ask out on a real date and they get mad and start to call me names. What to do?

Questions In This Thread

• How do you find guys when you're "straight" ?
  Manless -- September 30
  • Learn to give and get the clues...
    Jeff -- October 3
    • How do i know hes gay?(or bi)
      Travis -- October 12
      • Read the Board, Travis!
        Jeff -- October 23
  • I got the guy for you
    Anthony -- October 30

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