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Don't gay boys need the touch of a girl???

Submitted By: J
Date: March 5

I would like some advice. I would appreciate some good frank discussion,and if I am off base, tell me; you will not hurt my feelings.

I am concerned about a very good friend of my daughter who is gay. He is 18 and she is 17. He has been out only a month or so, and his parents, while not exactly supportive, are at least tolerant. My concern comes from the fact that I have known two young gay men in my life, and both are dead. Suicide.

Both of these men (you could almost say they were boys, as they were teenagers), told me that when they finally accepted who they were, they fell
into a life of extreme loneliness. They had either lost contact or stop cultivating riendships with girls. Having very few opportunities to meet other gay boys, they found life very unsatisfactory, and deep depression set
in.

My feeling is that while there are more opportunities for gay boys today, sexual frustration is still very likely to be a common problem.

The experiences of these young men have caused me to formulate the following advice, but I am terrified of telling him the wrong thing.

I want to tell him that even as he looks for appropriate partners, he should seek to maintain and cultivate his friendships, especially the girls. Why girls? Because a girl will touch him, and I think everyone needs to be touched. During the times when he has no partner, his straight boy friends, will not hold his hand, put his head on their chest, or massage his body. In short, they will not provide the comforting human contact I think all people need to feel complete. I am not suggesting he try to find sexual gratification with girls, but I think human contact will go a long way in helping him maintain balance in his life.

Tell me, please, am I off base?

Questions In This Thread

• Don't gay boys need the touch of a girl???
  J -- March 5
  • Don't feed him more stereotypes...
    Jeff -- March 5

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