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Re: I'm in love with my bestfrend

Submitted By: The Kurfew Krew
Date: September 23

In Answer To: I'm in love with my bestfrend (Cameron)

It can be challenging when there's attraction to your friend, especially if those feelings are one-sided. It’s completely normal to feel what you’re feeling, but it’s also important to protect your emotional well-being. One thing that might help is to focus on the value of your friendship outside of any romantic feelings. Building a strong, platonic relationship can provide you with a deep connection that lasts, even without romance.

You might need some time to process these emotions, and that’s okay. It could help to create a little space for yourself emotionally—maybe take a step back from the constant texting or try to engage in activities that help you center yourself, like hobbies or time with other friends. Sometimes, a little distance can allow you to reset your feelings and refocus on what matters most: your friendship.

As for your jealousy, that’s a tough emotion to deal with. It’s important to remember that your feelings are valid, but they don’t have to control your actions. When you feel that jealousy creeping in, take a moment to pause and breathe. Remind yourself that friendships don’t diminish because of someone else’s romantic interests. It's okay to feel envious, but try not to let it define your interactions with him.

If you ever feel comfortable enough, having an honest conversation with your friend could help. You don’t necessarily have to tell him everything, but you can mention that you’re struggling with some feelings and may need a little space to adjust. This can open up a dialogue, and who knows, he might be really understanding.

Ultimately, you’re doing the right thing by acknowledging how you feel and wanting to navigate this in a healthy way. Remember, it's okay to feel conflicted—friendships, especially when emotions are involved, can be complicated. Just take it one step at a time, and focus on finding balance between honoring your own feelings and preserving a meaningful friendship.

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• I'm in love with my bestfrend
  Cameron -- June 22
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    The Kurfew Krew -- September 23

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