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Problems in general

Submitted By: Frustrated Youth
Date: November 5

Okay, so here's my story. First off, I have a boyfriend whom I love greatly, and we've been together for 3 months. Right now I am going to college down here, and he is living at home in my home state of MA. I see him every so often, once a month atleast, but lately I've been very depressed. I've had problems with this before, and recognise my problems and am seeking help for it.
My real question is about my boyfriend. Right now, I'm scared of losing him. When I call him on the phone lately, he's been about to go to bed, arguing with his mom, about to take a shower, or watching TV and pretty much ignoring me completely. I used to do this to my ex, and am afraid because of that. Another reason I'm scared is because he mentioned something about a guy he really liked at BAGLY, but how he didn't want to do anything because he didn't know if the guy was skanky, AND he was with me. Personally, I don't like being an "and".

Part of my problem is that since I'm depressed, like clinically, I don't know if I can even trust these questions, or if its just my depression making me think this way. On top of that, I don't know if he's with me because he loves me and wants to be with me... or out of respect and loyalty or guilt. I've been tormenting about these things for a while, and have basically made myself a frustrated ball of confusion. Right now I'm wating for him to call me, cause I figure he'll call when he wants to talk, and when he has time to talk. But I don't want to seem like I'm avoiding him. What do you think I should do?

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