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Take your time...

Submitted By: Jeff
Date: December 28

In Answer To: First Time Anal sex (AnalNovice)

There's no sense in rushing anal sex, particularly if your muscles are saying "Not Yet!" If you're unable to relax sufficiently, your body is telling you that either you are afraid, or just not yet ready. Or perhaps you're body is telling you something else? Are you sure this is the right partner for you? Do you trust this partner? These are some things to consider.

My advice is to take your time. Get to know your partner better, and each time you try, make it a goal to relax just a little more. It may take some time, but eventually you'll find yourself able to relax. Relaxation is the key to an enjoyable sexual experience. If you try to make things happen to quickly, or to force yourself to have sex for the sake of "having sex," you will likely be disappointed, and may well have a painful experience.

REMINDER: When it comes to anal sex, unless you're in a rare committed monogamous relationship with a tested and thoroughly trusted partner, you must use a condom and practice safe sex!

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    Jeff -- December 28

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