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Don't analyze him, just move on...

Submitted By: Jeff
Date: October 3

In Answer To: Is the boy I met just a "playa" ??? (Stumped)

Sorry to be the one to break it to you, but from all indications, this boy is no longer interested in you. It's unfortunate that he can't be bold enough to let you know what's really going on, instead of continuing to offer out hope to you.

He may be a "playa," or maybe he met someone else, or maybe he just isn't ready for a relationship.

The lesson here is that if you really like someone, it's best to hold out on the physical relationship and spend more time getting to know someone face-to-face. This is difficult for everybody because gay boys are BOYS, and we all know that boys have a hard time turning down sex when they're physically attracted to someone. If he was indeed a "playa," he probably would not have put up with waiting for sex, and you might have discovered this about him before getting involved. Also, motel rooms are not generally known as the starting point of a long-term relationship.

So, as sweet as he WAS, you need to interpret his new attitude and actions as a strong signal to MOVE ON to someone with more on his mind then their next quick sexual fix.

Questions In This Thread

• Is the boy I met just a "playa" ???
  Stumped -- September 21
  • Don't analyze him, just move on...
    Jeff -- October 3
    • Don't analyze him, just move on...
      STumped -- October 3

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