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Honesty is best policy

Submitted By: Dave
Date: 12/25/00

In Answer To: I do both Jay and Jane (Confused)

Dear Confused,
I can sort of relate to your life only

I was going out with a girl a long
time ago and I knew I was gay. I just
went out with her because she was
really nice. We broke up and a week
later I told my friends I was gay and

she found out. It really killed her.

We didn't speak for about three
months. The ironic thing is that we

are best friends now. We are so
close and I love her as much as I can

even though I am gay. Now being
bisexual is a different story. I think
you should tell your girlfriend that

you also like guys. She may be
uncomfortable with it or she may not

and she might understand you and
stay with you. Let her know that you
do care about her and love her, but
you are still confused and you need
her because you know that you still
love her. If she ends up not talking
to you it is most likely that you will

be friends and talk again. It will
seem like you are closer than before
and might be better than going out.
But overall I think you should tell her
because if you do care for her then
you wont keep this secret that may
make her uncomfortable. Make her
realize that since you are telling her

that you care about her that much
and don't want her to go. If you have

any more questions just ask. Good

luck, I hope everything turns out

okay!

Questions In This Thread

• I do both Jay and Jane
  Confused -- 12/25/00
  • Honesty is best policy
    Dave -- 12/25/00
  • What's The Difference Between Bi and Gay?
    Just Me -- 4/2/01
    • The Difference
      Dave -- 4/8/01
      • advice?
        matt -- 1/31/03
        • My Advice
          Joey -- 2/2/03

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