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It's all about growing up!

Submitted By: Sabrina
Date: 12/4/00

In Answer To: going back and forth between guys and girls... (nameless)

I don't think the switching between guys and girls has anything to do with a "changing sexuality." It's really the result of a type of immaturity that many of us go through, whether straight, gay or bisexual. Basically, it's the thought that once you've got someone (whether it's the guy, or the girl) you quickly grow tired or restless and want the next challenge...you perhaps justify this by telling yourself that your sexuality is changing. So really, it's not different from a girl who's involved with a girl for 2 weeks, gets bored, and then wants to move on to the next one.

I hesitate telling anyone that "maybe the right person hasn't come along," because that excuse is used far to often in avoiding many a potentially fulfilling relationship.

If you're not set on a long-term relationship, and would be content with many short-term relationships, then perhaps this mentality would suit you, although I don't think it's a path to long-term happiness. I think you'll be much more inclined to settle down as you get older, but because you're writing me, it seems you're interested in getting a head start on bringing some stability into your love life.

So my advice is basically to grow up. Learn how to commit to the next person you're involved with, and put more effort into making it work, rather than wondering about another person or another sex. A professional counselor may be able to help you carry this out.

Questions In This Thread

• going back and forth between guys and girls...
  nameless -- 11/26/00
  • It's all about growing up!
    Sabrina -- 12/4/00

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