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How do I tell my friends I'm bisexual?

Submitted By: Dave
Date: 12/25

Dear What To Do in NJ, It is good you have came out to some friends because that should ease your stress and make you feel a lot better. You mentioned that you wanted to come out to your best friend and that he may not like that. Tell
him that he is your best friend and nothing should come between you and he above all people
should be the first to support you because he is your best friend. Talk privately with him and
in a mature and patient way tell him about yourslef. If you think he won't handle it well and nothing else will work - your 18 and going away to college. He won't be there to make fun of you or harass you, but I still realize how important a best friend is. So, just talk to him and describe your situation and say that he is your best friend and in that case he should support you and care for you. Good luck! Dave

[Editor's Comments] If you take Dave's advice and take the chance of coming out to your homophobic friends, do it in the presence of others, or at least in a place where you won't face physical harm. Also, you expressed interest in your friend, and while some of the biggest homophobes are actually gay people themselves, they can also be the most violent and difficult. People have actually killed other over fear that they would be labeled gay! So, we recommend taking a cautious approach. Don't try to combine "coming out" with "coming on" to your friend. After he's comfortable and accepting with you being gay, you can proceed to doing your own investigating of his sexuality, but first you've got the huge hurdle of coming out to him and keeping him as a friend.

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