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Submitted By: Anthony
Date: June 22

In Answer To: Straight - need advice on a Gay situation. (Worried Sister)

Alison,

I am really sorry to hear about your situation. Sibling relationships can be so important that it concerns me to hear that something that should be such a happy event in your life has cause a rift between you and your brother with whom you seem to be very close. I am not sure exactly what your situation is, but the only thing I can think of is that it may be an issue of jealousy. This would be especially true if you are the only one in the family with whom he is very close (i.e, your parents are not as comfortable with his being gay as you are). It is possible that he feels that you are turning your back on him to start your own family and he feels he will be left alone. If this is the case, I think it is important for you to show him in actions (and possibly words) how important he is to you and that you will still be close even though you are starting a family. Make effort to spend time with him. He may also be upset that you are going to have a child (and possibly a husband) and lead a life that he feels he will never know. Again, show him he is loved and I think it will blow over in time. If it doesn't seem to be improving, you might want to have a talk with him. Good Luck and please keep me updated!
Anthony

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