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Now is the time

Submitted By: Anthony
Date: January 6

In Answer To: How Do I... (Zac)

One interesting thing about things that we don't want to do (because they make us too uncomfortable) is that it never seems like the right time to do them. This is rather convenient as it gives us a good excuse not to do them. Don't get trapped in this vicious cycle. Usually, the biggest worry for teens coming out to their parents is that they will be disowned/kicked out. If you can be certain that they won't react like this, I think the sooner the better. It is going to take them some time to adjust I am sure, but it is better to start the "healing process" sooner rather than later. Choose a time that you can sit down with them without being disturbed. Tell them that you need to talk to them about something that has been bothering you. Saying "I am gay" is simple and straigh foward enough to start with and will no doubt get the ball rolling. Remember to be patient with them...this is as difficult for them as it is for you, and even if their questions seem inane or ludicrous, answer them honestly without getting angry. I hope that this is a positive experience for you and your family, please keep me updated (I say that all the time and I rarely get updates from people!) Be good.
Anthony

Questions In This Thread

• I don't know...
  Christian -- December 23
  • Stay Clam!
    Anthony -- December 24
  • Be honest with yourself
    Jeff -- January 2
  • How Do I...
    Zac -- January 4
    • Now is the time
      Anthony -- January 6

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